WEARING: OFF-SHOULDER TOP FROM ZARA | SHORTS FROM ARITZIA | MONOGRAM SMALL CROC-PRINT CROSSBODY FROM YVES SAINT LAURENT | ESPADRILLES FROM AUSSIE | HAT FROM MEXICO STREET VENDOR | SUNGLASSES FROM GENTLE MONSTER (ABSENTE S1 IN GOLD) |
PHOTOGRAPHED BY: NANCY QUAN AND EDITED BY: YOURS TRULY
I hope everyone had a relaxing and enjoyable Victoria Day long weekend or a regular weekend for non-Canadians. I was able to spend a lot of valuable time catching up with friends and creating new memories; which leads me to the topic of this blog post. We’ve been there and if you haven’t, there is no running away from it – the impact of distance on relationships. There is no doubt that this is a sticky topic and difficult situation to deal with. I am not referring to a long distance relationship where 2 people are living in different cities or hundreds of miles apart (not that it’s not applicable). I want to share what I’ve learned and have come to value ever since I’ve moved out regarding ‘distance’.
So, I’ve spent 99% of my life inseparable from my twin sister (who by the way took these amazing photos). We would do everything together and of course, have our frequent fights and arguments. But they are never permanent and quite often, forgotten within the next 24 hours. I never imagined what life would be like without her around. It’s like a routine and a part of me to see her face every morning and every night. Although she was always there, I never gave her much attention, spoke to her or listened to what’s happening in her life; our mutual friends would know more about her than me. Pretty sad and ironic right? I am sure there are many of you in the same shoes or have been there before.
In the last 6 months, things have taken a 360 degree turn and she’s no longer there all the time. Since I’ve taken the step to pursue my next milestone in life of building a home with my fiancé, she’s no longer the one I open my eyes to. We are now a 15-20 minutes drive away from each other and although it’s not that far away, this minimal distance actually brought us much closer together than ever before. I guess for individuals like my sister and I, we needed this little bit of space to realize the importance of each other and actually make effort to stay in touch. We now do a lot of things we’ve never done together before and see each other more than we did when we lived together. It is because we now physically have to leave the house and drive, which makes it that much more special. Things like face timing, goodbye hugs and even telling each other ‘I miss you’ have become so common and effortless. This made me realize the mistake I’ve been making all my life. Besides trying new things with my sister, I’m also making more effort for my fiancé, whom I see everyday now. I hope to not make the same mistake twice and despite not having any distance, to continue doing things as if we’re apart. “Don’t walk away from you awkwardness and conflict, walk towards it”.
Never stop trying, keep dreaming…